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Stumped on who should walk you
down the aisle?
Does wedding etiquette have you
puzzled?
Can't figure out how to word
your wedding invitation?
Is a wedding favor shot glass
appropriate?
Send your questions to the
Bridal Goddess.
All the best,
The Bridal Goddess
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Q: As mother of the
groom I was wondering what would be an appropriate type of dress
to wear. The mother of the bride has picked out a floor length
dress. Being a small short person I find that long dresses don't
look particularly good on me. From all I've read on wedding
etiquette, the brides mother and I should be wearing the same
length. Is this absolutely necessary as long as the colors of
both dresses compliment one another?
Please help!A: As
the mother of the groom it is not absolutely necessary that you
wear the same length gown as the mother of the bride. It is
necessary that you complement each other as far as the formality
of the occasion. If your son and his bride-to-be have opted for
an ultra-formal affair or black tie event, then a floor length
gown would be a must. If the celebration of their union is
going to be more informal, a tea-length gown would be perfectly
acceptable even if the mother of the bride has elected to wear a
floor length gown.
Remember, it is more important for your dress as well as the
mother of the bride's to complement one another as well as the
bridal party in both color and style. As you're shopping think
about how the colors will photograph when you're all standing
together for a posed photo. Will the colors blend or clash?
And above all, select a dress that makes you feel fabulous!
Your son is getting married, you should love what you're wearing
and not be restricted by the length of the gown.
Good luck with your shopping... I'm sure you'll find something
truly amazing!
Q: We are
wondering about the proper etiquette for invitations when you
have bended families.
The mother/father of the bride are helping financially, the
mother/step father of the groom are helping financially, the
biological father is not able to help financially.
Do the invitations need to list all parents or is it ok to list
the parents that played a key role in the children's life.
A. Today's
etiquette recommends that you acknowledge those who have
contributed financially to the wedding on the invitation. In
this case, your mother and father and the groom's mother and
step-father should be included. Depending on your fiancés
relationship to his biological father, you may elect to include
his name on the invitation although according to etiquette it is
not necessary.
Before you send your invitations to print, I would recommend
that you sit down and discuss your position on who will be named
on the invitation with those that are contributing financially
to your big day. If you elect to include your fiancés
biological father, it is important to convey the key role that
this individual has played in your fiancés life and yours and
that you'd like to recognize the love and support that this
individual has provided through out the years.
Sample wording including your parents, your fiancés parents and
biological father:
Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
and
Mr. and Mrs. Robert Long
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
Anne Catherine
to James Michael Trent
son of Mr. Samuel Trent
etc.
Congratulations and best wishes on your upcoming event!
Q:
I am 50 years old and getting
married for the 3rd time, my wedding dress is champagne in color
is this ok? Also, is there a set order for the flower
tossing, garter taking/tossing, cake cutting? One last?
Which leg is the garter worn on? Thanks so much.
Getting hitched, for the last time.
A.
Wearing a champagne colored dress is fabulous. As long as you
feel great it in, you can wear any color you'd like for your
wedding whether it's the first time around or the third.
You should cut the wedding cake first, then your groom should
toss the garter followed by the bouquet toss. But it's up to
you as to whether or not you want to include this tradition in
your reception. An elegant alternative to tossing your bouquet
would be to ask all of the married couples at the reception to
stand and recognize the couple who's been married the longest
and then present them with the bridal bouquet.
As for which leg to wear your garter on that's also up to you.
Tradition does not dictate a preference for one leg over the
other. If you have a tattoo that you want to cover up then I'd
place the garter strategically to cover up anything that you may
not want to show.
Again congratulations and I wish you a long and happy marriage!
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