Tips for Selecting Your Bridesmaids
By Leah Steenstra
You’ve got
one sister, he’s got two. Your college roommates were the only
ones that pulled through all-night studying sessions with you.
You get along so well with those two co-workers. Then, there is
“the group” from high school. So, how can you possibly choose
between them? While it’s great to have all those close friends,
20 bridesmaids isn’t exactly what you had in mind. Below are a
few tips for selecting your bridal party.
Size
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Less is more.
The more people you choose to be a part of your bridal party,
the more opinions you will have to consider, the more difficult
it is to schedule events and fittings, and the more expensive it
is for you! The more bridesmaids you have means more gifts to
buy, more bouquets to purchase, more people at the rehearsal
dinner, more limos to rent…
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Generally,
you need to figure that you should have one groomsman for every
50 guests. Since the amount of groomsmen and bridesmaids are
usually equal, you can use that as a guideline.
Making the
Cut
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Choose family
over friends. Friendships come and go, but your family will be a
part of your life for a long time to come. In addition, friends
will understand if they are not chosen because of family
obligations.
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Decide how
much work you expect from your bridesmaids. Choose people who
you know will be happy to help you and can help you because they
live locally.
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Consider
financial needs. If you have potential bridesmaids that are
struggling financially, do not put the extra burden on them that
comes with being a bridesmaid. If you think they will be hurt if
they aren’t asked and you really want them in your wedding,
discuss the situation with them.
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You do not need to include people in your wedding
party even if you were in theirs. Hopefully, they will
understand how hard it is choose and not take offense.
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There are many other ways to honor those who are close
to you besides asking them to be placed in your wedding
party. Friends can usher, sing, play an instrument or read
during your ceremony.
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