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Conquer the Five Most Common Fears About Your Wedding Ceremony
by:
Chris
Simeral
It’s safe to say that of all the important events in your
lifetime, your wedding day is certain to be right up there with
those that are the most meaningful. And throughout the entire
wedding day – the preparations, the ceremony, the reception, and
the wedding night – the moment when you recite your wedding vows
to each other is the most meaningful. It is a time that you will
remember forever, exactly as it felt: a sublime, dreamlike
fantastical moment, when everyone significant to you is watching
as you join in wedlock with the most important individual in
your life.
Conquering Your Fears
Since this is such a unique and central moment to your romantic
life, you’re probably wondering how it is that you’ll make the
experience better than that 10th grade public-speaking
assignment where you blanked out halfway through and fainted in
front of all of your peers. Begin by telling yourself that it is
perfectly natural to feel nervous when speaking in public.
Moreover, not everyone is born with perfect public-speaking
skills that accurately demonstrate what they feel in their
hearts. However, fortunately for the majority of us, these
things can be learned.
Of course, being well-prepared and armed with wedding vows you
know are the absolute best they could possibly be is one of the
easiest ways to overcome these fears. How do I know? Because the
home-study course I put together, The Ultimate Wedding Vow
Toolkit, has helped hundreds of couples take the fear out of
their wedding ceremony by giving them the tools they need to
write truly amazing wedding vows. You can find out more about
the kit at
http://www.weddingvowtoolkit.com.
But beyond that, when you think logically about each of these
fears, you’ll realize there is nothing that cannot be overcome
with a bit of care, technique, and practice. Let’s take a
realistic look at these five incredibly common worries. In a few
minutes, you’ll see that none of them are likely to spoil your
ceremony.
Common Fear #1: Freezing Up
This is a direct result of being excessively nervous. Therefore,
it’s important to come up with some calming techniques that will
help you to keep cool. It’s only natural to be a bit nervous. In
fact, the added rush from being a little on the anxious side can
actually help you to speak better and with added feeling. The
best technique that you can give yourself is breathing. Most
often, when we are overly frightened, we either breathe much too
quickly or we hold our breath. Therefore, as you’re keeping
yourself calm, concentrate on breathing smoothly, neither too
fast or too slow, but regularly, in through your nose and out
through your mouth. Practice a few times in advance, especially
in other situations that you’ve found a bit stressful in the
past. You’ll be surprised at what an enormous difference
something as simple as breathing can do for you.
Common Fear #2: Going Blank
This is another trick played by your overly-nervous brain. To
stop yourself from becoming so nervous that you go blank, or
even to remove any fear that you may go blank, bring a “backup”
copy of your wedding vows on cue cards that you can slip into
your pocket. Make sure they are very crisp and neat looking so
that you won’t hesitate to use them if you have to, and write
clearly on them so that you won’t get stuck due to sloppiness.
Common Fear #3: Blushing, Dry Mouth, and Shaking.
These are extremely common physical responses to being nervous
and having to perform in front of others. However, even if they
do begin to occur, you can bring yourself to a calmer state
where these physical symptoms will begin to fade. Try to ignore
blushing and shaking as much as possible and just concentrate on
your vows and how much you love the person to whom you are
making those vows. With regards to dry mouth, drink lots of
water beforehand, and try not to think about it. As long as you
concentrate on what you’re doing, instead of the fact that you
are blushing, shaking, or have a dry mouth, they will actually
begin to resolve themselves quite quickly.
Common Fear #4: Having Someone Heckle
This is a common fear, but it simply doesn’t happen at weddings.
Remind yourself that everyone there with you is hoping the very
best for you and your future spouse. They are all nervous right
along with you and wouldn’t dream of saying anything but best
wishes for your future together. The closest they will come to
“heckling” is sending a mental prayer to provide you the
strength and the courage to continue so that you may enjoy long
and happy lives together.
Common Fear #5: Being Judged
The people attending your wedding are all people who know you,
like or love you, and who wish you the very best. They know how
much adrenaline is running through your system as you say your
wedding vows, and wouldn’t judge you at a time like that; except
to think about how well suited you are to the love of your life.
Chris Simeral’s Ultimate Wedding Vow Toolkit has helped hundreds
of people across the U.S., Canada, and Great Britain compose
completely personalized and ultra-romantic wedding vows.
Find out more at
www.WeddingVowToolkit.com
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