Writing
Your Own Wedding Vows
By Samantha Taylor
Your wedding
vows are the words that will forever remain in your partner's
heart and memory. So you want to ensure that you express exactly
what you are feeling and how much you love them. Most people
have never written wedding vows before and they aren't quite
sure how to communicate what they feel into words. Here are some
helpful guidelines to ensure that the feelings in your heart are
encompassed in your wedding vows:
1.
Sit down with
your fiancée and put some general expectations in place for your
wedding vows - such as how long and how in-depth they should be.
2.
Begin
brainstorming. Think about your relationship and everything
you've gone through together. Focus, perhaps, on a specific
situation such as the moment when you realized that this was the
person you were meant to be with.
3.
If you use
nicknames or lovable expressions with your fiancée (honey or
sweetheart) you may want to incorporate these into your wedding
vows.
4.
If tradition
is important to you, review some examples of conventional
wedding vows. Most begin with "in the name of God, I (your name)
take you (your fiancée's name) to be my lawfully wedded
wife/husband." You may consider reciting your vows in a similar
manner.
5.
Avoid sad
memories or stories about you and your partner fighting. Wedding
vows are meant to express the joys of being together. Therefore
you should focus on the positive.
6.
Once you've
jotted down your ideas, you'll want to express them in a smooth
and flowing manner. You may want to start with past memories and
work your way to the present instead of jumping randomly from
topic to topic, as this will give the impression that you took
little time to prepare your vows.
7.
Incorporate
common expressions of love such as "I love you" or "I can't live
with out you".
8.
Once you have
completed your vows be sure to read them over 2 or 3 times to
ensure that they convey exactly what you want your partner to
know. You might want to have a friend, family member or your
wedding officiant to read them to ensure that they are
appropriate and meaningful.
It's
important to personalize your wedding vows and make them unique
to you and your fiancée. Wedding vows are meant to convey your
feelings of love. They explain why you're choosing to spend the
rest of your life with your partner. Regardless of what you
write, your partner loves you and is going to cherish your
wedding vows as long as they come from the heart.
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